Marriage in Christ can be beautiful--a wonderful picture Christ's love for His Bride the Church.
I don't look down on any here who have been through either cuz I don't know if someone cheated or the facts and circumstances. Personally, I like people safe, unbattered, and some people I've met were so often not safe and now not married. Brokenhearted. Dreams crushed. So sad. Won't judge em. But God can totally heal and restore people.
Mr. Lu-Cifer a.k.a. the Devil likes to divide people; tear em apart. Resist Him. He does exist and he does all that he can to get unmarried couples to have sex early before their weddings, and then after that date he does what he can to keep married couples from having sex with each other.. instead of others. Deny Him, this world system and your own fleshly emotions and sinful desires when they tell you to go do what's wrong. There's unseen consequences.
I say be real ..in prayer together.. and close to the Lord. Authenticity—what is that? It's the simple decision to via grace.. close that gap between who you appear to be and who you really are. I say.. it's better to be real, to pre-think before speaking but maintaining a spontaneous style, an upbeat, light and really candid mind-set. I say choose authenticity, transparency outside dark shadows, a non-inverted or egotistical attitude, but from the heart genuine, sincere upwards, inwards in your marriage and then outwards. That's Intimacy = into me see.
If your heart is hard. Please forgive. God can fix so many broken things and people. Turn if you've blown it. All have. Be born again and spiritual in Christ. Not half-hearted like a poser would do and be. Be diff. Christ sent His disciples out and they “preached that people should repent.” (Mark 6: 12). Sure He did, who can really appreciate the Good News if they first haven’t heard the bad news about where sin gets people.