Friday, August 30, 2019

Dealin' with a DIL or an MIL? Hey, God can give you both grace.

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If all parties are wise and reasonable--good. If either the MIL or the DIL don’t see the requests or desires of the other one as reasonable guess what.. this relationship can get strained pretty quickly. 

Be reasonable, be slow to anger, be slow to judge hearts and minds--only God can to that. Cut em some slack from both sides. Just die to self and your fleshly nature, believer. 

The Bible says, “For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will liveFor those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.” Romans 8:13-14 

Are you dealing with a mother-in-law? Dealing with a daughter-in-law?

Ever been asked some questions on this stuff? Makes me want to study the topic -- believing father in laws need to die to their old nature too. 
Who can you see that is a DIL or MIL in the Bible? How did they get along? I've been lookin' at the words of other in-laws on this stuff, cuz of course "dudes like me need to kind of get it a bit." Like...

"I really want to have a good relationship with you. I never want to judge, manipulate, compete with, or control. As badly as I want to be close to you and the family, I need to give you and us time. I long for you to feel like my daughter -- blessed by me. It means the world to be when you initiate contact with me. Pray for me -- sure, let’s pray for each other. I do need your prayers, and I appreciate them." The Bible says, “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective” (James 5:16)

Choose to be in Jesus and Spirit-filled..walking in the Spirit instead of in the flesh daily -- no need for selfishness right. Choose to be a kind DIL, MIL, FIL and SIL person.. to act respectfully, hospitably, honestly, patiently -- to be unselfish and reasonable on both sides..instead of passive aggressive or openly that way (aggressive or bitter). Be double respectful and loyal to your parents. Duh. That's a given..and be slow to judge when your mother-in-law sounds not reasonable, and visa versa.. cuz either might just be honest and wanting to help out as most do for each other (helping out some might be from her own upbringing and family culture). You know how in the world this DIL vs MIL relationship can become worse than horrible real quickly and then get even worse than that if both sides aren’t careful. Selfishness is the way of the world. In Christ can be harmonious and blessed. Dealing with a mother-in-law or DIL can be good for ask: How do I respond to her or to a problem of a mother-in-law who is acting overbearing, controlling, and meddling?" You know many out there act like that. 
I have had some DILs before, but now have a really great DIL I feel. She is honest and she has an even greater MIL (my wife). I pray they are blessed together. The dynamic has always been interesting to watch with each one, and with others I've met. But an overly gatekeeper-type of isolated DIL dolling out too many commands on the homefront, or a meddling mother-in-law who is demanding, controlling, pushy and who constantly intrudes into the lives of her son/daughter and daughter-in-law/son-in-law what the Bible calls a "busybody" (1 Timothy 5:13). I say meditate upon this passage. The meaning of the Greek word that is translated "busybody" in the 1 Timothy passage means "a self-appointed overseer in other men's matters." Overly-overseeing is what some mothers-in-law are engaged in, or at least accused of doing. This kind of behavior is SO annoying, it's very frustrating for many, and it's contrary to God's plan for the family. Your family life with relatives. 

Obviously, the dynamics in such a situation can be worse than frustrating. Rude even. A mother-in-law may do these things because no one else in the family has given her boundaries..respectfully. Therefore, she becomes an overbearing "bully-type." A MIL, really? Sure. Perhaps she does not even realize how intrusive and controlling she has become. To her it may just be actively "loving." If that is the case, perhaps a heart-to-heart talk will clear the air. If she does understand what she is doing and does it on purpose even after she has been asked to stop it, then there is nothing that you are going to be able to do to alter that. She needs to repent and or.. get saved

Regardless of which side of the family the interference comes from, it is can be like an assault upon the sanctity of the marriage and it violates the "leave and cleave" of God's order for marriage as found in the Bible (Genesis 2:23-24). A man and woman leave their birth families and begin a new family, and they are to love and protect each other. That is normal. A husband who allows his mother or his mother-in-law to interfere with his marriage gobs is not living up to the commandment given to husbands in Ephesians 5:25-33. (My mom Betty has never done that. I feel grateful, thanks mom! My helpful parents have been super for my wife Liney and I. Thank you parents!) Boundaries need to be set with God's wisdom and then held regardless of the resistance encountered. The reality is that people often treat us the way we allow them to treat us. If we permit them to trample on the sanctity of our family, then that is what they will do. No one, not even our extended family, has the right to invade the privacy of our home and we don't with their home. It is the responsibility of the husband to guard that privacy properly. He should take the spiritual lead in gently—but kindly.. firmly—explaining to his mother-in-law what she is doing that is over the line and assuring her that such behavior cannot be tolerated. A wise DIL need not be too isolated from help as well. The husband should remind his mom that God has given him the responsibility for his family and to relinquish any of that responsibility to her is to disobey God's word. He should also assure her that he and his wife still love her, plan to spend time with her, but that the relationship has changed and he is in charge now. He needs to repent trust in Christ, and say his mom that he is sorry for his past rudeness or blunt disrespect towards her. And mean it enough to change that. That's just humble. That is God’s design for the family, two way respect in His wonderful Son who has acted humbly.. and that is the way it will be when Jesus is Lord in the home. Then the couple must stand firm in their biblical resolve. Biblical convictions stemming from that right vertical relationship are the basis of how it just works good, long and right.

What can we do about reacting to a woman who acts in the way a meddling mother-in-law does? We can make a choice not to allow her to take away our peace of mind. We may not be able to change the way others behave, but how we respond to their behavior is our choice. We can allow the actions of other people to get to us, or we can choose to give it over to God and allow Him to use this to strengthen us spiritually. It is our own response to this type of situation that fuels our frustration. Only we can stop wearing ourselves out emotionally by allowing an interfering mother-in-law's actions to be the arbiter of our own peace. Her behavior is not our responsibility; our response is.

Parents and in-laws should be treated with respect and love, but we must not allow our emotions to entangle us. The best way to disengage an enemy is to make him an ally. This is done through God’s grace. Christians can always give the grace of forgiveness (Ephesians 4:32). It may not stop a mother-in-law from interfering, but it will be a source of strength and peace to stand in (Ephesians 6:11-17). The only place to find true peace of heart is in a personal relationship with God through Christ. Only then can we respond by resting in His peace.

Recommended Prayerful Reading Resource: The Whole Bible (Yep, the Word is Top Priority), The Gift of Forgiveness by Charles Stanley 

A person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty. Know anyone who likes to run here and there after whims or nebulas?

Got a selfie with bling and a handful of cash? Nothin’ wrong with that. Some think that looks uber-cool. I often meet em, but think about how your peeps try to gain. I personally don’t know a farmer, but “He who tills his land will have plenty of bread....but he who pursues worthless things..those who chase fantasies..lacks sense.“ Might feel fun and exciting for some, but that’s gambling - the itch to get rich at another’s expense. Yep, vainly runnin’ after fantasies. No one can win unless someone loses - it’s based on many losing. Playing the lotto and powerball - the governments wrong tax of sorts on the ignorant (stupid). Hello!..think about the odds.    

"A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty.”
I also meet lots of people who love to gamble and some are now addicted to it. Many are in huge debt about presure.. with broken homes. They broke em. Lots of people get hurt bad. No one starts out thinkin’ I’ll soon be addicted and alone. Did ya know that financial strain is the one of the top reasons why people get divorced. It’s true.  
“He that loves silver shall not be satisfied with silver..”
“No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.”
“For the love of money is the root of all evil…" 
Greedy people, the stingy..they try to get rich quick but don’t realize they’re headed for poverty.. poverty shall come on em.
Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income. This too is meaningless.“ 
"Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathers by labor shall increase.”
“ without covetousness; and be content with such things as you have: for he has said, I will never leave you, nor forsake you.”
Dream time waste?.. or better yet: Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
If you choose to know Jesus and fill your minds with what is true, how will there be room for any false ideas? Thoughts inside; they become your words and subsequently your inner attitude.. an attitude that is often easily read outwardly by others. Where the mind goes, the man often follows. See 23/7prov. and 4/8phil. in the Bible. 

Growing, it's a good thing. Every single day it is.

Often looks good. There is a path so SO many people choose to take that comes off to em as the absolute right one, the best way.. even though it’s far from either.

"There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death." Proverbs 14:12
Dead religion does to many saying, "Earn your way in by works, Dear! Do, Do good!" -- never giving you the power to be good or righteous. Today the messages of CNN, MSNBC and of 98% of news networks often do.. pointing people in the wrong direction. The words of JWs, Mormons and other cultists seem right to many. #Ditch #RunDontWalk wisely #TrustJesus #Stick with the #Bible not the influence of bad company. No spiritual compromise, and no excuses, Buckeroo.
There seems to be a new right in my Land.. to never be told anything that offends. What? There is a right to “my truth” (that might not be at all) over any other real overarching truth. There is a right to make God into anyone or thing that you want. Are you yours'? We live in a time when people carefully listen with their eyes and believe they clearly see with their feelings to speak. Weird.
We've seen companies in the USA that won’t allow a person to put a little American flag on their desk cuz that might offend some people here. #PC-runamok! Is that how it is in your Land? We don't worship it!
So many churches and so called Christians simply won’t tell you about the two destinations ahead. You must be born again spiritually.. cuz God says You must be born again (John 3:3).
Many people evade jail that really should be in jail here... but there is a Judge and a real jail that’s more prison than any other jail or prison. You know of this place right. It’s called..Hell.
All have blown it in sin and need to repent. Yeah, cuz there will be a judgement. 
Twice in Luke Jesus responded to sinners like you and me, "I tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish." Luke 13:3-5
I really don’t want any going to HE-double hockey-sticks that was made for fallen angels! NO, but many arrogant, rebellious, apathetic.. very stubbornly people will.
“The wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nations that forget God. For the needy shall not always be forgotten; the expectation of the poor shall not perish forever.” Psalm 9:17-20

Who is the only way into the Father God’s heaven? It’s Jesus Christ and you can be forgiven -- you can know Him today.

Point to and brag on Jesus..not to self or some idol. Tactfully explain the Gospel. Ask the Lord how to reach this people..those around you there.

“This generation listens with its eyes and thinks with its feelings.“ Ravi Zacharias

Thursday, August 29, 2019

Does Kale In Your Salad Also Bring You Sorrow?

A lady was heard (it was like you couldn't not hear her..) over and over again in the hospital. She was persistent and kept being heard.. as she was in labor crying out, "Kale me. Kaaaale me! Just Kale me!" 

It didn't happen, so glad!.. but O the joy that followed in her experience there. 

I've been there for three such births--it get's pretty serious. Have had some joy from my three sons. Think of that for a minute. The very thing that brought this lady such sorrow and pain actually brought JOY inexpressible!

(Kale brings me sorrow)

The greater the sorrow, the greater the JOY, believer. Light and momentary troubles--outweighing glory. Hang in there, the day is coming when you will rejoice. Temporary grief and sorrow today can mean permanent joy and glory tomorrow. The great Jonathan Edwards said that his happiness in Christ went far beyond his enemies and what they did to him. Remember the Great Awakening in the USA -- he was used of God with that. Biblical revival, and an awakening -- it can happen again here. Ask in prayer. Did ya know that Jonathan Edwards was once voted out of the church he led. Ouch. That sadly happened.. but look at the glory that followed that. Did ya know...

Ethel Waters who sung so wonderfully at Billy Graham crusades... was actually the product of rape. That sadly happened.

Jesus said, "These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world." John 16:33 NKJV, always see context 

What is it that makes a Christian witness here in this dark world SO wonderfully winsome? It's the JOY! Why are those watching the Spirit filled and led believer... SO drawn to their Christ! It's the JOY within! The man of sorrows -- the Lord of Life, who was also known for His JOY.. is living big on the inside of that believer! Have you felt down and hopeless today? That JOY can happen in You. What does God in the Bible say on this?

"Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer." Romans 12:12
"May the God of hope fill you with all JOY and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope." Romans 15:13
"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds.." James 1:2
"A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." Proverbs 17:22
"So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you." John 16:22
"Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
"Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete." John 16:24
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, J O Y, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23 #emph.mine
"I rejoice in following your statutes as one rejoices in great riches." Psalm 119:14
"That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." 2 Corinthians 12:10
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn." Romans 12:15
'You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance." Psalm 32:7
"The father of a righteous child has great joy; a man who fathers a wise son rejoices in him." Proverbs 23:24
Put your "hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enJOYment." 1 Timothy 6:17
"When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.” Psalm 94:19
"Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will be joyful in God my Savior." Habakkuk 3:17-18
"Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls." 1 Peter 1:8-9
"You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand." Psalm 16:11
"I delight greatly in the Lord; my soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of his righteousness.." Isaiah 61:10
"The Lord has done it this very day; let us rejoice today and be glad." Psalm 118:24

Was the crucifiction of Christ evil?
Was the crucifiction of Christ good?

Hey, you already know how to respond to this!

Yes to both.

BTW Did you miss the JOY at the HarvestSoCal this year? You can catch it here.

Is there a difference between joy and happiness?
Is God a cosmic killjoy?
I need JOY inside. Why can't I stop sinning? Please help me!
How can I find joy in the midst of trials?
How can I experience joy in my Christian life?
What is the joy of the Lord?
The Fruit of the Holy Spirit is LOVE, but what is this joy?
How did Jesus bring joy to the world?
I need some joy in my marriage. What does the Bible say about a joyless marriage?
What does it mean to count it all joy (James 1:2)?

Do you have a bunch of made-up medical excuses for those feeling concerned around you? Drugs and alcohol in this corrupt world system won't give you the lasting JOY that you've been looking for. Nope--won't fill that inner void. No time for idols replacing the Lord to you. Ditch that stuff, no lame excuses! 

We sadly had to bury (his ashes in the sea) my 24 year old nephew Dutch who did drink and Xanax together. Repent. Believe--only Christ will properly fill that void. Need hope and a new start today? Been feelin' harassed, hassled, sad, down with all the challenges of this life? Has it been really rough for you today? Tony Campolo said, It's Friday but Sunday is coming. 

May God pour grace, wisdom and comfort into the hearts of those who believe--you can choose to turn from sin and believe right here and now. You can choose to come to, or to return to Jesus Christ now. Sure, don't put it off like so many do.

Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Help me understand. Why do the Elites with their Left leaning media keep pushin' Sharia?

Have you noticed.. there is an attempt to take over the USA, and implement Sharia Law.

How Do You Feel About The Western Elites Betraying You? It's Been Happening.


Pakistani man: “My wife wore clothes that I didn’t like, so I beat her up, and then poured acid on her face. You would have done the same thing.”

Reporter: No, I wouldn’t have done the same thing. Uhhh NO!

Q. If even nice sounding PC lies ..are believed, embraced and aggressively propagated in a culture and or in one State more than in another.. do you think the people living there who are believing em.. will be better off? Really? Think about it. Will they typically live better or worse for themselves? Will that State function better for the people or worse? Are there really some cultures where evil leaders have gotten many of those there into believing many say about the Jews? Yup. There are so many lies pushed on us all these days. 

Could one culture actually be better for a people than another, even though the people are equally valued and loved by God. Even though we too equally value and love people.. instead of the evil and lies? Sure. 


The Bible is true and so helpful. Fact: Like not all so called Christians walk according to their Book of love and faith, the Bible, well so it is in Islam in this sense.. some Muslims don’t yet obey the clear commands in their Koran. So of course not all Muslims are practicing violence. could they in the future? 


There are no Freedoms in Sharia Law. It is all about Taqqiyah. It’s just doesn’t go with our US Constitution. Why would we go against that -- it’s good. 

In the US, what’s their objective? To take over. 

Hear this too if you don’t believe me. 

Reject their error. Let's return to the Jesus of the Bible
The City Of New York Has Plans To Make This Muslim Sharia Enforcement A Citywide Program! "It's like Sharia Police." 


It's time for the USA to get back, get back, get back to where we once belonged.. returning to the Jesus of the Bible


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Do you know the stages of Islamic conquest? There's increasing numbers and the beginning of cultural conflicts Inside the's often visible, though subtle.

First there’s a migration wave to the non-Muslim “host” country.

Appeal for humanitarian tolerance from the host society.

Attempts to portray Islam as a peaceful & Muslims as victims of misunderstanding and racism (even though Islam is not a ‘race’).

High Muslim birth rate in host country increase Muslim population.

Mosques used to spread Islam and dislike of host country & culture.

Calls to criminalize “Islamophobia” as a hate crime.

Threatened legal action for perceived discrimination.

Offers of “interfaith dialogue” to indoctrinate non-Muslims.


They are into pedophilia in the name of religion. Let’s talk about Child Brides A terribly taboo talk but it is alive and well with Islam. 

The man is 91 and the “child,” well, take a look. This allowed in #Islam. 


Muhammad killed people and had sex with children in the name of religion--it’s still very wrong today. Many call the massive influx of Muslims“The Muslim Invasion.” But an ExMuslim now Christian friend of mine says, “I need to tell you it is called Hijrah. Muslims can have four wives and so many kids.” It’s part of Hijrah, also spelled Hejira or Hijra (“Migration” or “Emigration”). 

The Islamic false prophet Muhammad came to Medina following the migration of his followers in what is known as the Hijra (to Medina) in 622. He had been invited to Medina by some city leaders to adjudicate disputes between clans from which the city suffered. Then he left Medina to return to and conquer Mecca in December 629.



How many nations are suffering from Islamic infiltration? One? A handful? Nearly every nation? The Islamic ‘leadership” of the Muslim Brotherhood and others wish to dissolve each nation’s sovereignty and replace it with the global imposition of Islamic sharia law. Sharia law, based on the koran, sira and hadith, condemns liberty and forbids equality and is inconsistent with the laws of all Western nations. As the author and historian Serge Trifkovic states:

“The refusal of the Western elite class to protect their nations from jihadist infiltration is the biggest betrayal in history.”


A Somali-Born Journalist Returned to Paint an Uplifting Picture of Her Homeland. She Was Killed by Terrorists.


Islam is too dangerous for the USA. Not really funny at all. Something ought to be said. What will it take to get your attention? Love...always protects. 1 Cor. 13 



Omar Tells Room Full Of Muslims It Is Time To ‘Raise Hell’ In America

Rep. Ilhan Omar has been secretly fundraising with Islamic groups that have ties 2 terrorism

They have meetings deliberately closed off from the press and hidden from public view .

It's time America hears the real gospel and takes a stand.

Let’s get Ilhan out of office. 


Muslims are taught it's righteous to lie to an infidel. That's you.


It's it time to ditch deception and the lies and live in the truth?

Anti-Semitic Democrat Ilhan Omar Accused of Committing Perjury 7 Times in 2017 Court Documents.