Out with that so called leader perhaps? Out with that so called boyfriend or girlfriend? Don’t really kick em, but yeah, you might need to show em to the door. Dead-bolt it.
Or maybe it's time for you to hit the exit.. remember how Joseph in Egypt fled that uber-wild married woman? Could it be the so called leader or believer just needs some encouragement and help. Are they like a bruised reed or a smoking flax..and it wasn't even their fault? Use discernment.
"Strengthen you the weak hands, and confirm the feeble knees…" 35:3,4
Let's be quick to hear, slow to speak all preachy-like, and really gentle with those kinda torqued over, beat-up and wounded around us. We can learn from lots of people, from good examples and the hypocritical -- what never to become like and what to become like. Know, follow and become like Christ. He loves you and really is your best friend. Has your best interests at heart. Always! God is light and there is no darkness in Him -- never has been.
Turn, trust and simply walk in righteousness. No, not in faux-religious or any other kind of bogus self-righteousness cuz that’d sure be lame. The real type -- that’s right living with God while being in right standing with Him cuz of the Cross and faith. But how? You must be born again...sure cuz “you must be born again.” John 3:1-21
Not my opinion here, that’s from the One who made you and wants close relationship.
Establish the main connection first. Let the Word lead you and give Jesus all the Glory. Inquire, listen, follow and collaborate with the Lord as He works on developing the gifts and talents that's He's purposefully planted in your person.
It’s easy for some people who have suffered some hard things in life to develop a false perspective of God’s character and then they really hold back with their vertical-commitment etc..like He’s parsimonious, stingy, tight, and ungenerous with His kids. Like some abusive parents who enjoy giving em the foot instead of kindly anything benevolent or good. Got some church-hurt from a sick church..from a dead-inside or cold-blooded person in authority? Let's all daily wise up. Jesus really can heal you and lead you to a healthy church led by healthy under-shepherd servant pastors. There indeed are some.