Monday, October 19, 2015

A marriage that actually works, what's it take? It basically takes leaving and cleaving.. leavin' your parents, your own selfish worldly ideas and all other really close relationships in a sense. Your spouse needs to be and remain your second best friend.

Listen, "trial marriages" (merely living together before marriage) the popular and pleasurable "test-drive", the beta marriage model (testing it together for say 2 years pre-commitment), and the Real-estate model of marriage (renegotiating the terms of use after say 10 years - 43% of millennials go with the Beta, and 36% of em back the Real-estate model) ) ..they don't work and studies back this up. Yes, 85% of those who live together before marriage end up divorced. Living together in fornication before marriage basically sets you up for a failed marriage. 
It should actually be called the trial breakup and divorce, the "I just need some space to go find myself" crash. There has been a good plan for marriage and the family. Whaaat! But, Kurt, everyone in the world is doing know what I'm talkin' about. But look around you Buckeroo.. do ya really wanna get what they are getting… angry relational fail? Do you really want to inherit what so many worldly-wise parents gave you for an example?
Love is patient and not self-seeking. So slow down, take your time.. cuz once you marry you really want it to last a lifetime. 
"For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders." Matthew 15:19
Several unforeseen consequences one didn't bargain on. "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18

Wanna be an effective witness as a successfully married person? Want a blessed family life? Both of you, make Jesus Christ your very best friend. Yes, stop, turn and come to the inventor of it. He knows what's ahead for you and what it'll take. Husband, wisely be the spiritual leader--too often it's the lady who is taking the definitive and leading. Go to a healthy church. Pray together instead of sin together. Choose to do it God's way instead of the world's way. You'll be so glad you did. "Basic instructions before leaving earth" = B.I.B.L.E. 
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