If you claimed to be a Christian and then moved in to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend ...because they said Praise the Lord.. and that they'd soon marry you. And besides.. you were already having sex with the person.. in fact you've now had a couple children together. Would you need to stop and pray about marrying this person who keeps putting marriage off for years.. this person who says by their life, their words and their deeds.. that they are not a Christian?
You can't go backwards to that same place you were when single with integrity. Can't go back where you were, when sold-out to Christ with no messin' around spiritually. But you can repent and go forwards with Christ.
Christian, if you lived with a non-believer and then later on ..married that unsaved person instead of waiting on the Lord for who He would provide for you as a spouse, would it be good to divorce that person cuz you both started out on the wrong foot, and you must now locate your true soul-mate to be happy? No, don't do it. Two wrongs won't make a right.
Listen, there's just no right way to do a wrong thing. None.
You just can't have the peace of God doing what's outside of the will of God. You can't enjoy peace with God being outside of Christ.
You don't need to waste one minute praying about doing what the Bible says is sin.. no matter how much you feel like it, or think about doing it / him / her.
"Do righteous".. stay that way - righteous in Christ.. instead of doing unrighteous.. or anyone else in sin.
Let's say you really love grape juice. Would you stop and pray about drinking some if you knew ahead of time that the glass of grape juice actually had arsenic mixed into it? You wouldn't stop and pray about it ..right? Or would you.
But grape juice is good for you and for your children. It's healthy. What about what's in the children's best interest?
What if your family needed some extra money each month. Would you want to stop and pray about going to rob a bank, or a connivance store so that you could better provide? Why not? What does the Bible say about money, about stealing, about how to get some cash, you know providing for your family?
You can't maintain integrity if you go with your feelings, if you go with what your lost boyfriend or girlfriend says to do. You can't retain it by heading off into spiritually compromise.
"Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?" 1 Cor. 6:18
Would you need to stop and pray about it, a new dating relationship, if that married man or woman who keeps coming by to flirt with you? Seriously? If you are a real Christian, would you need to pray about lunch or dinner alone with them, or about sleeping with em? Would you need to pray about moving in with a non-Christian when you claim to be one? Nope. You would even need to.
What kind of a witness would you be for the Lord while living with your lover.. no matter how many times you stop and prayed after sex together.
What would you do if you think you heard an audible or non-audible voice inside that claimed to be from the Lord.. where He said it was totally okay for you to move in together, to live and sleep together.. pre-maritally? You know, like, "Go for it my child. Reach a climax together with My joy. Enjoy beloved. May my peace and love guide you cuz I love you."
Would that voice actually be the voice of the Lord, totally spurring you on into impurity and sin when the Bible tells you to do the opposite by living holy and pure? Would that be the voice of the Holy Spirit perhaps? No!
What does God in the Bible say about that stuff? What does God in the Bible say about fornication, about adultery, about stealing, about rightly providing or about how to make a marriage work? Do you prayerfully read through the Bible to be well fed, and see what all the verses say about those subjects? Doesn't the Bible say...
"Don't team up".. "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers".. "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" 2 Cor. 6:14
Today is the day to wise up, and stop compromising.. to stop going by feelings, impressions, impulses, by what your friends or lover advises etc.